authenticity

Monday Morning Leadership Q&A – 11/6/17

Client Question: “I would like to be perceived differently than I am today.  I want my management to see that I am ready for the next level.  How do I do that?” The best place to start is to understand fully how you are being perceived today.  Have you been given feedback that you need to do some things differently?  Did the feedback come from just one person or is it coming from multiple sources?   Do you see any consistent themes? …
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Are You The Leader That You Want To Be?

One of the things that is a challenge as a leader is to be authentic to who you are. Without realizing it, you may become what others want you to be. It isn’t something that you may even recognize right away. You begin conforming into what is expected based on feedback from your management or peers. If you are moving towards the person that you want to be then that is okay. But if it is conflicting with your values…
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Do You See Yourself as a Humble Leader?

​When you are trying to share a lesson with your team, do you share how you learned that lesson yourself?  In the article “4 Lessons You Learn About Humility While Ambitiously Chasing Success by Silvia Turnova, she talks about sharing more of yourself when you are trying to reach your goals.  She lists four lessons to consider: Being Humble – always remember where you came from and that others helped you get to where you are.  What are you doing…
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Who Do You Want To Be Today?

One of my favorite thought leaders on leadership is Lilly Daskal.  She posted a blog recently that was focused on the fact that “you are the leadership message.”  Here are 3 of the 9 different messages highlighted in the article that stand out for me: You get the best out of others when you give the best of yourself It’s not just what happens to you that determines how far you will go; it is also how you handle what happens…
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What Does A Confident Leader Look Like?

My first role with direct reports was a new role that didn’t exist before.   I had three direct reports and oversight of the daily activities of 22 indirect reports.  It was a little overwhelming at the time.  The great thing was I got to make up what the role would do, how it would work and define it all as I went along.   For a first time leader of people, it was a little scary.  There was no one else…
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Don’t turn me in. I am an Impostor!

I heard an interesting podcast today on the subject of being an impostor.  This is something that many people feel throughout their career.  Here are some of the questions that go through an impostor’s mind: “What if people find out I don’t know everything that I should?  What if they realize I am not ready for this role and they shouldn’t have given me the job?”   Does this sound like you? Surprisingly this happens to many high potential people, especially…
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Building Authentic Connections One Day At A Time

For simplification reasons, I recently moved some of my accounts to a different bank that is near where I live.  I noticed immediately that when I walked into the bank I was greeted by a person seated near the entrance.  They asked me how I was doing, what my name was, how could they help me and offered me a coffee or a water.  Was I really at a bank?  Then they walked me to the office of the person…
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How powerful is a story for a leader?

  Today is November 11th, which is a day known by different names ( Veterans Day, Remembrance Day, Poppy Day, Armistice Day, etc.) depending on where you are from as a day to remember all those in the armed forces who fought for our freedom. Thank you all for your service. Picture yourself getting together with a bunch of friends or family.  At some point, you will probably hear a story or two about a recent event that happened to…
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5 Ways to Put Better Balance in Your Life

“You cannot be really first-rate at your work if your work is all you are.” – Anna Quindlen I saw this quote and it made me think about how much balance we have in our lives.  In my past, I had been known to have some (okay more than some ) workaholic tendencies at times.   This caused challenges when I had issues at work to deal with and my child was playing in a volleyball tournament.   I know you are…
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To be an authentic leader, just be yourself.

I met a leader who was getting feedback from his manager at work that he was not being seen as authentic.  I will call this leader Tom.  I asked Tom some questions to better understand his perspective on the feedback.  What did he think was holding him back from being an authentic leader?   Is he trying to be what someone else wants him to be?  Is he comparing himself to others and trying to be like them?  Is he different…
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