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The Silent Struggle of Feeling Undervalued

Every single day I meet with people who feel like they aren’t enough. They have thoughts running through their heads that tell them other people are better, smarter, and know more. They may recognize that these thoughts are happening, but they don’t understand how these thoughts impact their behavior. The impact of this kind of thinking impacts everything that they do. They hold themselves back and play small and these thoughts prevent them from reaching their potential. This leads these…
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Vulnerability Can Change Everything for You

I was sitting in a book editing retreat to learn the best ways to edit my book a few years ago. It was a small group event held in a beautiful resort in upstate New York to teach all the future authors in the room how to edit our books. During one of the first days of the event, each of us was supposed to take a turn reading a small selection of one of our chapters to the rest…
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Are You Holding Yourself Back?

Can you overcome limiting beliefs? The short answer is yes…and it takes time to shift them. These beliefs are ingrained in our brains and may have been there since we were children. Here are some of the types of limiting beliefs that can exist for you: self-limiting beliefs, societal beliefs, and cultural beliefs. These long held beliefs are true for you in your brain and they impact how you see the world, make decisions, and see yourself.  What is a…
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What Do You Do When You Feel Resistance?

Are you someone who sees change as a good thing? I think it depends on the experiences that you have had with change. If the change experiences that you had were good and brought you new opportunities, you would probably view them in a positive way. However, if the situations that you went through with change did not go well, then you might feel a lot of resistance and wish it wasn’t happening. What do you do when that resistance…
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Are You Taking Advantage of Opportunities?

Are you letting opportunities pass you by? In every organization, there are processes that are inefficient, people who need training, frustrations about workload, and problems that need to be solved. These are just a few examples and there are many more that exist in a company.   How come no one is trying to solve them? The list of reasons usually sounds like this: lack of time, may not have the skills or expertise, don’t view it as part of their…
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What Can Tough Situations Teach You?

How many times have you said or done something that you wished you could take back or change? I remember standing in front of a large audience at a conference and being so nervous. It was in the middle of the conference hall and not in a private room which is where all of my other speeches had been. There were no chairs for people to sit on. It was like speaking in the middle of the shopping mall and…
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Does Your Manager Believe in Your Potential?

“Do you believe in me?” That is the question that most employees want to ask and get the answer from their managers, but they won’t ask it. Why won’t they ask the question? They are too afraid to hear the answer. Instead, they create stories of what their manager might be thinking…”What if my manager has stopped seeing my potential or doesn’t think I am ready for the next level?” So instead of simply asking the question, they will try…
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Is Your Fear of Making a Change Holding You Back?

One of the biggest changes that I have made since I left my corporate career is being comfortable taking imperfect action. It is so empowering to try things and experiment vs. having to get it all right. Now I implement imperfect actions each day without the worry of what anyone else thinks. It is incredibly freeing to do things without any fear.  Looking back in my past, the word imperfect wasn’t a part of my vocabulary. I wore the crown…
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Are You Putting Yourself First or Last?

“Now, what am I going to do?” It is the decision that every people pleasing leader dreads. They have held time for themselves to work on a project and someone else sends a meeting invite for the exact same time. Do they give their own time up to take that meeting and make the other person happy?  Although they may not want to, a people pleaser will give up their own time in a heartbeat to make others happy. Why…
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Are You Letting the Fear of Something New Hold You Back?

Every time a leader moves up to the next level it brings excitement, but it also brings out the doubts and insecurities. It can also happen when you take on more responsibilities that are new to you. One of my business mentors referred to it as a new “first.” This is when you go through something for the first time. It feels uncomfortable and it is filled with unknowns. It is completely normal and the same experience that everyone goes through…
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