People-pleasers want everyone to like them and they don’t want to risk not being a part of the group. They will withhold their own voice and opinion if they feel that what they have to say isn’t good enough compared to others. They are constantly seeking the approval of others and struggle to stand out. This habit is so ingrained, that they don’t even realize that it is showing up in all parts of their lives and relationships. It can cause them to lose the trust and respect of others.
As a coach, there are times where I need to be direct with clients or say something bold to help them see other perspectives. I need to focus on serving them in the best way that I can, not pleasing them. I may be the only person who actually tells them the truth about themselves or a situation. If I don’t tell them, then who will?
Is there someone that you need to give feedback to or have a difficult conversation with in your life? Will you serve them or please them? I know that this can be challenging to do, but people will trust and respect you so much more if you tell them the truth. They can’t grow and improve if you don’t share the information with them.
Stop seeking out the approval of others and second guessing yourself. Be willing to stand up for what you think is important and actually say what you think. If you are holding something back, then ask yourself why you are doing it. Is it to avoid a conflict or to prevent others from seeing you stand out on your own? Don’t let others have the only voice and opinion. Take the focus off of yourself so that you can stop pleasing and serve others in the best way possible.