The first two posts of this week were focused on an overview of tolerations and your physical space tolerations. Yesterday’s post was targeting the financial tolerations that you may need to address. Today’s post is focused on the tolerations that impact your health and your relationships. The other tolerations are important, but these two need to be your priority.
The tendency to put yourself last on the list generally occurs when you have a lot going on at work and at home. All the other activities in your life take priority and you don’t always take care of yourself. In my own situation, I realized that I wasn’t taking care of myself and I was putting other people’s needs before my own. I was doing that as a mother and also as an employee putting the company’s needs before my own. There is nothing more important than your health and your well-being. Here are some questions to ask yourself: Do you get to the gym, do you get regular physicals, see the dentist regularly, have fun, do whatever makes you happy? If not, then you need to find ways to build some boundaries and schedule time for you to be a priority in your own life. You can only be the best you when you give yourself some time and attention.
What about the relationships in your life? Do you spend time with your friends and family? Do you criticize and judge other people? Do you get defensive and take everything personally? Do you have people that you are angry with and have spoken to in years? Any one of these things are examples that can cause you stress and anxiety if you don’t address them. Ask yourself if the relationships in your life are serving you and making you happy?
I used to struggle with some of these myself. I figured out that I was placing expectations on people and they didn’t even know it. I wanted them to be what I thought that they should be and then I got frustrated when they weren’t living up to my expectations. The bad thing about that is that I just kept those frustrations inside and didn’t tell them. I came to realize that I needed to change how I thought about things and what I focused on in my own life. I started to accept people for who they are, looked at the great qualities that they had, assumed the best intentions in people and communicated more about expectations with others. I have to say that this was really transformational. I had always heard that you can’t change others, you have to change yourself. I found it to be completely true and it changed every one of the relationships in my life.
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