I posted a quote this week on social media that said, “If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.” by Maya Angelou. In terms of self acceptance, this quote says it all. How can you accept yourself when you are focused on comparing yourself to others? Think about what other people may be showing you. They are projecting how they want to be seen, which may not be the reality. Basically, you are comparing the inside view you have of yourself to the outside view of other people.
What if you were willing to let comparison go, focus on what you are doing and accept yourself for who you are right now? Imagine how much energy you would have if you weren’t trying to be what someone else’s version of what normal is? Living in comparison is exhausting and it is just a way for you to stay safe by telling yourself that you aren’t good enough. This is going to prevent you from showing up in your life in the best way.
Try this approach the next time the comparison of someone else happens in your head. Wish them well for who they are and what they are doing. This is taking away the negative comparison thought and making it a positive instead. Now redirect your thoughts back to you. Think about the amazing things you are working on right now, pay yourself a compliment for how great you are and focus on what you want to create next in your life. Just try to do this for one day and see how much differently you feel.
Letting go of comparison is a mindset shift that takes time, but now that you have this awareness it can happen much faster. Just make the decision to shift your thinking to yourself. Imagine what great things you could bring into the world if you focused on accepting yourself and spent all of your energy on only creating a new “normal” for yourself each day?