I attended a couple of different events last week. I met some people who have had amazing experiences throughout their lives. To be completely transparent with you, I went into comparison mode. “They have done so much more in their life than I have ever done.” I started comparing my life to theirs. I
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Are you being authentic in your life? Brene Brown said that “authenticity is a practice and you choose it every day.” I like to believe that all leaders are doing the best that they can to show up authentically. They may not even realize that they aren’t already showing up that way. What if they
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Can people easily tell if you are being authentic? They may not be able to tell right away, but they will be looking for signs that your words and your actions are matching consistently. Basically, they want to see if you are being honest and transparent when you talk to them. There will only be
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Focusing on avoidance this month has been very enlightening for me. It has given me the opportunity to look at the things on my own to do list that are continuing to get pushed off. I will share the three categories these things fall into for me and see if these resonate for you too.
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Avoidance has been showing up for many of my clients over the last few weeks. Some examples of this are struggling with conversations that need to occur with their team or a big decision about letting someone go. Obviously all of these things are hard things to face. What is always interesting is that when
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Trying out new things for the first time is scary and uncomfortable. I was listening to a podcast yesterday. The author talked about her fear of surfing. Her niece asked if they could take surfing lessons together. She was beyond scared and looked for any excuse that she could find to get out of actually
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What do you do when it is time to have the tough conversation? There are two common approaches to use. The direct approach will bring both parties together to get everything out on the table and address the situation head on. The second approach is to put off the conversation for as long as possible.
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People-pleasers want everyone to like them and they don’t want to risk not being a part of the group. They will withhold their own voice and opinion if they feel that what they have to say isn’t good enough compared to others. They are constantly seeking the approval of others and struggle to stand out.
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Allison was a good student, followed in her mother’s footsteps for her career and married someone just like her father. She rarely tells her children no and buys them things that they want, but they don’t really need. Her friends are involved in lots of activities and because she doesn’t want to feel left out,
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If you listened to the stories that are going on inside the head of a people-pleaser you would hear an assortment of messages focused on being liked and wanting to belong. In an article titled, 21 Tips to Stop Being a People-Pleaser by Margarita Tartakovsky M.S. she shares the things that you can do to
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When you put everyone else’s needs before your own, there may not be much time or energy left for you. You may start out doing this with the best of intentions because you care about other people and want to help them. However, at some point this want becomes a need for you. Instead of
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When someone asks you to do something or go somewhere, do you automatically say yes when you want to say no? Do you put everyone else’s needs in front of your own? These are some of the actions of a textbook people pleaser. Pleasing people isn’t a bad thing, until it becomes automatic, starts to
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If you are in an office environment and especially if you have a team, you are getting interrupted about every 8 minutes. It makes it hard to get a whole lot done in that time. When I was in the office, I used to go find a place that I could hide out and get things
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As some of you may know I am a former Information Technology person. The thing that is great about IT people is that we are problem solvers at heart. As soon as we hear about an issue, we immediately jump into solution mode. We just can’t help ourselves! The challenge is that solving problems for
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Multiple clients have been struggling with setting boundaries for themselves over the past few weeks. It is something that I have struggled with over the years as well. For example, how many times do you go to an event simply because someone asked you to and you feel bad so you don’t want to say
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