Is The Story That You Are Telling Yourself True?

“What makes you think that you are ready for that job?”  This is what some people may hear when they are getting ready to interview for a new role.  However, what if this question isn’t coming from a friend or family member, but it is coming from inside their own head?  Situations in their past or conversations with other people may have placed that seed of doubt into their mind and then the person replays it in their own head over…
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How Can You Prevent Self-Doubt in Your Life?

Self-doubt shows up when you are out of your comfort zone and trying something new.  All of these stories show up in your head telling you why you aren’t ready for it and placing doubt in your mind.  What if those stories weren’t even true, but you still believed them?  How can you move past them? Once you recognize that this is occurring, you can see that you are stuck.  It is important to remember that your ego is trying…
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Behind the Scenes of Planning a Retreat

I was so excited to have my women’s leadership retreat this past weekend!  The group of women that attended were all so wonderful and it went so well!  What I wanted to share with you though is the behind the scenes of what happened to make the retreat a reality. I was thinking about doing a retreat in 2019 and had created a plan in my head for all the things that I would do back in October.  I just had…
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What if You Lived in a Way That is Brave and Curious Again?

  Remember how free you used to feel when you were little and you would just play all day long?  Everything in front of you was something new and exciting to try out.  You were operating out of curiosity and a sense of adventure to see what other new things you could try out.   Somewhere along the way you were probably told to slow down, be careful or not to try out certain things by parents, teachers or babysitters. …
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How Can You Reach a Difficult Conversation Outcome Faster?

Imagine that you are driving down the highway and you see a big accident up ahead.  Your first instinct is try to get off the road and find a different way to get to your destination isn’t it?  So you most likely choose that option because it means that you will get to keep moving forward instead of just sitting in traffic and not getting anywhere.  However, you have no idea that the path that you chose is going to take…
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Is There an Art to Having a Difficult Conversation?

I was working with a client yesterday and discussing how to have a difficult conversation with one of his employees. He said “there really is an art to doing this well, isn’t there?” I hadn’t thought about it in that way, but I believe he is right. Although it would make it easier to follow a process, there is no perfect formula to follow for every conversation. Every situation is slightly different and you are dealing with human beings who…
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What Should You Prepare For With a Difficult Conversation?

Having a difficult conversation isn’t the hardest part.  Preparing to have one is much harder.  As I shared in the blog from last week, there are many things that can occur.  Some of these things you can prepare for and some you can’t.  All you can do is plan as much as possible to have the best conversation under difficult circumstances. Here are some of the things to think about when you are planning the conversation: What are all the things that…
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Are You Prepared to Have a Difficult Conversation?

  I remember the first really difficult conversation that I had to have with someone who worked for me.  They were not performing well and although we had discussions about it, things weren’t getting any better.  I could feel my stomach getting more upset as the time approached for the conversation.   I knew that it was not going to be easy to say what I needed to say and it would definitely not be easy for them to hear. …
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Did You Know That Self-Care Has Unintended Benefits?

I was thinking about all the benefits that self-care can provide.  You have less stress, you are healthier, more rested, calm and happier.  Those are all examples of the way that self-care can benefit you.  However, the other benefit that isn’t always considered is how it provides exponential benefits for those around you. You are setting an example for your children (if you have them), co-workers, friends and family.  They are able to see how the changes that you have made have helped you…
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What If You Do Just One Thing For Yourself Every Day?

This month’s theme is about self-care.  I have shared in the past that self-care isn’t something that I practiced consistently.  When you are working full-time with young children and getting no sleep you are just glad that your clothes match when you get to work! However, I have now seen the error of thinking that way.  If you can’t take care of yourself then you can’t care for others in the best way.  Iyanla Vanzant who is author and speaker, refers to…
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