 How much of what you think about yourself is tied to what others think about you? Is your self-worth driven by your own internal views of what success looks like vs what others may think? In a world of competition there are always constant comparisons that occur. Which team is the best? Who is driving the better car or has the better house? Who has the better career title? Who makes more money? It becomes really easy to fall into this trap and judge yourself harshly based on what others think.
Have you thought about how you would measure your own success without worrying about how other people view it? You can choose your measures of success and no one else can tell you it is right or wrong. You don’t have to justify it to anyone, but yourself. Own the conversation when you talk about where you are in your life or in your career. If you are happy and content with your life and your success then others will be happy for you. You can’t control what they think or say, but you can control how you feel about yourself.
It is very liberating to let go of all the expectations that others may have of you and decide what you want to do with your life. It doesn’t mean that you have to change everything around you, but it does mean that you get to choose your attitude about those things. Just remember that you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone. Imagine how it would be if you decided to stop comparing yourself to other people or pleasing others? You would just get to be your own authentic self and focus on doing the right things without any second guessing or doubt. Wouldn’t it be so empowering to have your success be based on how you see it and how you want to live your life?
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