Someone asked me, what are your thoughts about boundaries? Hmm…good question I thought. My initial reaction was that I know that they are a good thing now, but I used to have so much resistance to putting boundaries in place for myself. I didn’t think of them as bad necessarily, but I felt like others might judge me if I said no because they would be disappointed. I was a people pleaser who cared more about other people and their…
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Let’s be honest, being perfect isn’t worth your time. The extra time that you could take to make something perfect is most likely not going to make much of a difference. If this is you, then you spend time doing the extra work to make others happy, avoid criticism, and because you are trying to meet someone’s unrealistic expectations. What if I gave you a permission slip on the project you are working on and said just do what is…
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Can we all just stop breaking our boundaries already? I taught a class last week on impostor syndrome with an amazing group of leaders. I asked them which impostor syndrome type they struggled with the most and the majority of them chose to keep their boundaries personally and professionally. Boundaries create guidelines and rules for you and others to understand, follow and respect. You can define physical, relationship, conversational, and time boundaries for yourself. Strong boundaries help you to avoid…
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If I took a poll right now and asked leaders to share what their biggest challenge is, I bet lack of time would be near the top of the list. If I asked them what is taking up all of their time, I might hear too many meetings, bigger workload, less resources and very little time to think. Everyone gets the same 24 hours each day so how do some make it work, while others struggle? How do you want to be perceived?…
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Trying out something new can be exciting, but it may also push you out of your comfort zone. It is hard because you are learning all kinds of new things and it can make you feel insecure. Everyone goes through this feeling, but it passes as you learn more and get more comfortable. When you are a leader, this insecure feeling is magnified. There are expectations from your team, peers and management that you have answers and know what you are…
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It is a huge challenge to juggle everything that needs to be completed between work and home. Our to-do lists continue to grow, no matter how many things are crossed off. This creates that feeling of being overwhelmed. Being able to create boundaries in your life can help reduce the feeling of being overwhelmed and allow you to take back the decisions about where you spend your time. Here is some advice that I received in my career to help…
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